Respect by bullying?

An odd thought, right? Maybe even repulsive? Christopher Nolan, a renowned Irish author, died last week. Christopher wasn’t just any author…he had to write because, he said, “my mind is like a spin-dryer at full speed; my thoughts fly around my skull while millions of beautiful words cascade down into my lap.” Christopher wrote his …

An End Run on Anxiety

It seems like man’s best friend is also a kid-who-is-struggling-to-read’s best friend, too. I heard an interview today with someone from the Humane Society describing a program where dogs help kids learn to read. I perked my ears up when I heard this…cuz dogs can’t read! The guy says, “It’s hard for some kids to …

Forgiveness

The issue of forgiveness is big in the counselling business. To say that some of our clients have been a little hurt is like saying the pope is a little Catholic. There are times when an important part of what I do is bear witness as a human being to the horrors of another…to allow …

A slow fade

I was recently at a water park…one of those fun ones with water spurting out of all sorts of places, hoses to spray, slides to slurp down on, and a lazy river to float on. There was a large bucket at the top of one of the roofs of the play structure and I would …

R E S P E C T

Aretha Franklin spelled these letters in a song that most of us can hear in our heads just as we spell the letters ourselves. While these words are often associated with deference given to authority, or something you have to provide to those who are older, wiser, stronger, or more intimidating, I think of respect …

Brokenness, not Selfishness

This post might not make sense unless you read yesterday’s post. In it, I talked about how a person can see that they are “giving” to people in a self destructive way and don’t understand it. I suggested that underneath that there is another level in which the giving behavior really serves a purpose to …

Look Deeper for Understanding

I work with a lot of wonderful people-people I admire and learn from. People who teach me about themselves and about life, and as I tell them about what they have taught me, they also learn. Often people come to me asking with curiosity-actually, by the time they are talking to me about it, is …

Another Shack nugget

One more quote from The Shack, about a man and his wife: “He says she saved his life and paid a high price to do it. For some reason, beyond understanding, she seems to love him now more than ever, even though I get the sense that he hurt her something fierce in the early …

TeamWork

I watched a video this morning during a workshop I was attending that was about leadership and group/team development…the video followed a pair of runners during the race. One of the fellows was clearly blind. The other was sighted. Both were clearly trained and seasoned runners. They ran a race…not a road race, but a …