Happily Married?

John Gottman, author and renowned respected scientist of attachment theory, states that people who stay married live four years longer than people who don’t. Further, couples that are happily married (as evidenced by numerous scientific measurements over the course of two days and a night) show a greater proliferation of white blood cells in response …

Working to Escape Life?

The Winnipeg Free Press had a fascinating article yesterday that stated: During the Great Depression in the 1930s, Kellogg’s instituted a six-hour workday in its plants to take up the slack of too many people and not enough jobs, he says. Within two years, workers were accomplishing as much in six hours as they had …

Fighting

Have you seen this video? I saw it for the first time on Friday. It’s got it’s cute moments, but look for the patterns and the way one part plays off the next part. There is a sort of rhythm, almost predictability to the argument-the husband and wife are dancing to the rhythm of the …

Struggling with Self Esteem

It was cold-really cold-outside yesterday. Although this time of year I’d rather be running outside, it just didn’t seem realistic that I would actually get my body outside in the frigid temperatures, so to the indoor track I went. I musta looked might goofy giggling to myself as I ran around on my own around …

Transforming Destructive into Constructive

Anger Management is a cultural cliche in our society, where suggesting it is a way of chiding a person and often, hearing someone has taken it is the source of a joke. Hollywood has had all sorts of fun with “Anger Managment” in various ways. TDC is our anger management program. We’ve been running it …

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Years ago I happened to be at the school yard in the morning on the first day of school in September. The bell had rung about 5 minutes before…the excitement of the first day of school that had the hard top vibrating only a short time ago was now in the school. However, the fire …

The Walking Wounded

I was having a conversation today about the news story of Stephen and Isabelle Allison, a young couple moving to Winnipeg with big dreams and ambitions. They happened to sit towards the rear of a certain Greyhound bus last summer and their move to Winnipeg hasn’t been anything like they expected. They witnessed the brutal …

I love you

Being a therapist, I find ways to expose myself to different ideas, so my home page on firefox has a variety of news feeds and quoteable quotes.. This one caught my eye: I love you. It’s not a weight you must carry around. I love you. It’s not a box that holds you in. I …

In Praise of Gangs

There’s been talk in the news lately about money in the government budget to fight gangs. Gangs are seen as the source of much crime including the proliferation of drugs, financial crime with money laundering, and violent crimes against each other, where innocents can get caught in the crossfire. I’m all about reducing crimes, but …