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Self Kindness at Christmas

The holiday season can be a difficult time…in our rush to make it “perfect” for our loved ones, we run ourselves ragged trying to get everything ready, and start trashing ourselves for not doing it right, or not doing enough…and ironically, as we get stressed out, it affects the experience of those around us…sabotaging the …

Her 50th birthday would have been today. :(

50

Dear Car, If things had been different, …the couch I sit at in this moment would have streamers and balloons above it. I suspect your mom would have had you over for the day to occupy you, while your husband decorated and fussed, while your friends came over to put up decorations and loaded food …

You were the reason, George H.W. Bush said when his wife said there must have been a reason his life was saved in WW2.

“You were the reason”-George H.W. Bush

Jon Meacham’s gave a humorous and moving eulogy at Barbara Bush’s funeral in spring of 2018. I find the relationship between George H.W. and Barbara Bush profoundly moving in it’s gentle tenderness. George H.W. Bush was strong and brave. He was also tender and loving. And George H.W. Bush was brave to let his tender …

Take the emotional labor quiz

Take the Emotional Labor Quiz

If you find value this blog, you may want to read the book I wrote that includes this idea in it: Husband spent last week in Texas, along with a team of other volunteers, rebuilding a house that was destroyed in last year’s Hurricane Harvey. He has a seasonal business, and that frees him up …

A collage of 3 pictures highlighting the jersey 11.

Dear Son: Number 11

Dear Son, I remember hearing the thrill in your voice when you called me weeks ago: “Mom, coach told me I’m wearing number 11 this year!!” Number 11–the heart of the team. A well loved player whose legacy was valued and cherished is remembered by number 11. Now it is your job to honour him …

Dare to Lead: Brave Work, Tough Conversations, Whole Hearts...program developed out of the research of Dr. Brené Brown

Dare to Lead

Another leadership program? Really? Aren’t there enough floating around out there? Yes, there are a lot. But we need this one.  You need this one. Your team will thank you if you absorb this one. Dare to Lead has a fresh emphasis that is lifegiving for leaders and followers alike. A breath of fresh air …

TEDx: Interconnections

Wired for connection. That’s my line…it comes up more weeks than not during my weekly time on 680CJOB with Hal Anderson. I talk about our essential need for vital relationship in workshops, on blogs, in therapy and well, basically everywhere. When Ian McClausland interviewed and photographed me for his fiftyX50 project, it was only natural …

Of Bird Feeders and Trauma

There was about a year in my life when I was in very close contact with a trauma survivor. Despite the fact that I had known him a long time, it seemed he didn’t trust me. I would ask him, “How was your day?” as part of friendly conversation, he would suggest that I was …